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The bittersweet kindness of strangers

I had an experience today and I feel somehow that others might be able to relate..on a number of levels.

fall daisy and sunshine

fall daisy

So my oven died a month ago, just the baking element on the bottom with the burners still working but there has been no baking in this house for a while now (not that my kids are crying over that, my cookies are usually burnt and they call my bread "mom's lead bread") however that is not the point.  The point is that because I rent, it should be my landlord's responsibility to get me a new oven, right?? His response: "No, I don't think so, I would rather you just bought your own".  Hmmm.

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My name is Cathy

When I sit down to write a blog post I find myself wondering who you are. Who are you, you that is reading this?  Are you someone who has stumbled across this website by accident? Did you punch a few words into a 'google' search and it suggested you take a look here?    I don't know who you are but please let me introduce myself: Inaugural Blog

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It does get better.

A kindred spirit As I write this, the wind is blowing and howling outside of my window, it's a lonely sound.  I remember sitting and looking out my window in the Fall of 2010, the wind was howling then too and the window I was sitting at was at Inasmuch House in Hamilton, a shelter for women.  I was alone and the wind echoed my pain.  Thank God for Inasmuch House for although I felt alone in what I was going through, I had never been more surrounded by support.

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It’s good to connect with each other

it's good to connect with each other

it's good to connect with each other

Last week I had a break and enter at my home.  Not much was taken (I'm grateful that I obviously have nothing of any real value!) but my bedroom was ransacked.  I walked in to see most of my clothes strewn across the floor and I suddenly realised that I couldn’t touch them.  I couldn’t physically touch them! (How weird is that?)  I figured I would be able to do it the next day...nope.  Then the next and the next...nope, nope, nope.  OK I was just going to have to wait until I was able to speak to my counsellor at Catholic Family Services.  I came home from that appointment a few days later and  was finally able to clear up my clothes ... my Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) from Domestic Violence had been triggered but once I was able to see that clearly I was able to move on.

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Some of what’s going on in the city of Hamilton…check it out!

One of the things that we are most committed to here at 1infour is to maintain the calendar of monthly events.  In fact, the idea to have a calendar that reflects goings-on across the city was one of the founding principles behind the creation of 1infour, we recognise how important it is to be connected and not isolated.  Not everyone will go to workshops or barbeques but hey, who wouldn't like a free manicure or haircut?  From Women's Weekly (one of my personal favs) to zumba at Good Shepherd, there are multiple opportunities to connect with other women and guess what? ... Good Shepherd offers services that you don't even have to identify as a woman who has experienced any issues of abuse! The services are all there for the taking!

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Why 1infour?

why 1infour

why 1infour

It has been a while since I wrote a blog post for 1infour, considering I wrote everyday for about a year, this has indeed been a long break!  Lots of reasons I guess, time moves on but some things don’t change.  I am not the person I was when we started 1infour, I am older, hopefully a little wiser but definitely stronger.

Why 1infour?

Well for one, 1infour exists for the children : not just my children but for every child who has lived in a home where anger and tension are the norm, where mothers turn away so that the children won’t see their tears and where  “walking on eggshells” is the safest way to be.

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Reason for hope

Use Movies to Foster Gender Equity

Use Movies to Foster Gender Equity

It’s a little too chilly outside for April! In fact that’s an understatement. On days like this it’s nice to stay inside. On nights like this it’s great to have a home, some warm food, and a good movie to share. But, not just any movie.

I’d like to suggest some movies that have strong female role models. When girls and women play a leading role in the plot it sends a positive message to survivors, our new partners, and our own children that women are strong, capable, intelligent individuals who make valuable contributions to every aspect of life.

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Selma….the need for change

Avoidance Now and again we all meet people whose outward appearance belies the person underneath,  Doreen Nicoll is one such person.  Doreen and I met late last year when we both appeared as guests on a television show, she sat across from me and I noted how petite and frail she seemed...until she started speaking!  My friend Doreen may be petite but she is a powerhouse of empowerment, a woman who has and is still living with the effects of domestic violence and yet who has chosen to speak up to advocate for others.  Doreen wields her pen (or rather, her computer) as her weapon of choice, writing prolifically in her fight to do her part to end poverty, hunger and gendered violence.  1 in four will be showcasing Doreen's blogs, the first of which appears below...enjoy!

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Guest Blog — New Year’s Resolutions

We've had a number of fellow survivors stepping forward looking to share their thoughts and insights, and so 2015 plans to be a year of many voices. To start us off, here is our first Guest Blog post here at 1 in Four:

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As a Woman I am Empowered by…

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. This evolved from the first Day of Unity observed in October, 1981 by the National Coalition Against Domestic

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