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This is going to be a different kind of post.  I was given some information last night that I think is so helpful that I am going to put it here for you to see.  It is all about self-care and how important it is to look after ourselves.  As a woman involved in an abusive relationship for years, I often neglected myself.  I neglected pretty much all aspects of my life: social, mental and physical.  The only area of my life that I nurtured was the spiritual area because that is what sustained me from day to day.  By the end I had reached the point where I didn't feel valuable enough to look after.   Domestic Violence will do that to you.Self-care

Here is a list of activities that you can do to look after yourself, many of them at no cost.  Take a look at them and see if you can find time to incorporate at least a few of them into your life over the next few days.  I am going to do that as well.  I wrote in the forum last night that I am struggling with looking after my physical self...let's encourage each other to be good to ourselves.

Listen to your favourite music

Enjoy a long, warm bubble bath

Go for a walk

Share a hug with a loved one

Relax Outside



Attend a caring support group

Practice diaphragmatic breathing

Do stretching exercises

Reflect on your positive qualities

Watch the sunrise or sunset

Wear soft Pajamas


Concentrate on a relaxing scene

Create a collage about the "real me"

Receive a massage

Write in a journal

Attend a favourite athletic event

Do something adventurous

Read a special book or magazine

Sing, hum or whistle a happy tune

Play musical instruments



Learn something new

See a special play, movie or concert

Draw or paint a picture

Swim/float/wade relax in a pool

Do aerobics or dance

Visit a special place you enjoy

Smile and say "I love myself"

Take time to smell the roses

Imagine yourself achieving all of your goals

Go horseback riding

Reflect on enjoyable memories

Call a special friend

Enjoy a relaxing nap

Visit a museum or art gallery

Practice yoga

Relax in a whirlpool or sauna

Enjoy a cool, refreshing glass of water

Reflect on "I am thankful for"

Play like you did when you were a child

Gaze at the stars

Window shop


Go sailing, paddle boating

Reward yourself with an affordable gift

Go on a vacation

Create with clay or pottery

Create positive affirmations

Pet an animal

Watch your favourite TV show

Reflect on your successes

Write a poem expressing your feelings

Make a bouquet of flowers

Watch and name the clouds

Make yourself something nice

Visit a park or a forest

Read positive motivational literature

Reflect on what you value most in life

Work out with weights

Ride a bicycle

Make yourself a nutritious meal

Go on a picnic in a beautiful setting

Enjoy a cup of tea

Practice a relaxation exercise

Practice the art of forgiveness

Go out for supper

Participate in a hobby

Create your own list of self-nurturing activities

(Information taken from:  Provines and Ashkey, Southern Illinois University)

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About cjw

A mother of three and a survivor of domestic violence, I am passionate about helping women who feel isolated and alone, women who may have children that are profoundly impacted by the trauma of domestic violence and women who need to understand where they can go to get help for themselves and their families. I am a registered nurse who has worked for the last 16 years in a critical care area only to have to flee to a women's shelter and have my whole life changed. I know fear, I know pain and I now know food banks...I'm in good company.


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